I was recently referred to ..as a Drama Queen. Yes , I know ..can u believe it ??
Now, normally - I would be offended by a statement like this - because I do my best to avoid Drama. However, it seems, that this opinion could be shared by others.
What was interesting about this statement, is that it made me realise, that in this particular instance - I WAS in fact, being a drama queen. What can I say ? It happens. It was a defining moment for me...because it brought me back into perspective. It also was a defining moment to realise the person who told me, knew me well enough to recognise my behaviour had reached Drama Queen proportions - and was comfortable enough in our friendship to say so. My first reaction was to actually thank this person - for slapping me back down to earth...( sl earth so to speak )
The thing is ...in here - this damn little box we use to communicate - is often all we have. If we dont get the right words in there - all hell can break loose in our minds. Yes !! It can !! Especially us women.
However, the thing to note here is....I dont throw a tantrum over small things. If I feel strongly about something, I will persue my convictions and wont back down easily. Sometimes this can be misconstrued as a " Drama Queen " episode or a " Tantrum". Quite frankly, if your lucky enough to be that close to me to experience either of these, its a damn privelage. I dont crack easily. :)
So ...Im going to hand out a few tips here for you people who chat to me in IM.
- first of all - if u engage an Im with me , this requires one on one communication with me. Im not a fan of starting a convo then wizzing off to chat to 10 other people, while you leave me hanging ??? If I have you in IM , I will speak to you and only you and other Ims will wait. That is just how I am.
- secondly, if you leave...please say goodbye. I dunno if I need to wait for that next sentence or if your afk, or what . Drives me nuts...if you dont say goodbye.
- thirdly, choose your words carefully. I speak to a lot of different people in Second Life. Surprisingly, it is a small world. If your going to discuss other people with me ( ie bitch and moan ) be sure to have your facts straight, as the reality is, I probably know who your talking about LOL. I am completely over ' hearing' what someone said " I said or did" or didnt do. If you need information about me or something I said or did , ASK ME !! You know what they say ....its always best to get it straight from the horses mouth. I also choose not to listen to gossip / innuendo about other people. I make my own choices about personalities in SL, and its rarely based on others opinions.
As for the Drama Queen thing. I am the first to admit, over indulging in Second Life, can create a vortex of misunderstood sentences, inaccurate perceptions, and ultimately complete distortions of the intended message. I try to maintain perspective daily in Second Life. Sometimes I lose it...just like everybody else.
Im lucky to have good people around me - who love me enough to tell me when I'm spinning out of control.....it doesnt happen often. But it can happen.....
I believe - A little Drama Queen Tantrum once in a while - doesnt hurt anybody !
I intend to have more episodes.....
stay tuned.
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Many people, including myself, have exerted a lot of effort to avoid causing or getting involved with conflicts. But this is just an idealism, and showcases yet another example of naive people, like myself, trying to achieve an unachievable goal.
No one is immune to conflicts, but the one thing that separates one person from the other is how they grow from conflicts, particularly how they handle future ones.
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